Correction: Feedback Scripts That Land Without Burning Bridges
Corrected by Emir Baycan · Full-Stack Developer, Mobile App Builder and Web Platform Founder with expertise in SEO, automation, SaaS, AI visibility, DevOps and scalable digital products
Emir Baycan found something wrong, outdated, or unsupported on this page and proposed a fix. The publisher accepted the correction.
- Role
- Correction
- Publisher
- Evolang
- Topic
- Communication Skills
- Status
- Accepted
- Date
- 19 July 2026
The exact change
"The reason feedback fails so often is that we give people a verdict and expect it to function as a guide. Verdicts tell people who they are. Guides tell people what to do. They work differently." Sheila Heen, Thanks for the Feedback [...] "When you give hard feedback, tell the person what it is not as well as what it is. Not a verdict. Not a preamble to firing. Not a personal attack. Specifying what it is not is how you specify what it is." Kim Scott, Radical Candor [...] "The moment you are willing to say 'I might have had this wrong' is the moment your feedback becomes credible. Every feedback giver who never says that loses the trust of their best people." Douglas Stone, Difficult Conversations
A useful way to think about it: feedback that works like a verdict tells people who they are, while feedback that works like a guide tells people what to do next. The two land very differently, and the difference is central to Stone and Heen's research in Thanks for the Feedback. [...] A useful practice when delivering hard feedback is to be explicit about what it is not: not a verdict, not a preamble to firing, not a personal attack. Naming what the conversation is not can be as clarifying as naming what it is. [...] Being willing to say "I might have had this wrong" is one of the strongest signals a feedback giver can send. It is a theme that runs throughout Stone, Patton, and Heen's research in Difficult Conversations: credibility depends on a willingness to update.
Why this is better
Fabricated direct quote attributed to Sheila Heen from 'Thanks for the Feedback' - this exact quote could not be verified in the actual book or any secondary source; it follows the pattern of a real a; Fabricated direct quote attributed to Kim Scott from 'Radical Candor' - this exact quote could not be verified in the actual book or any secondary source.; Fabricated direct quote attributed to Douglas Stone from 'Difficult Conversations' - this exact quote could not be verified in the actual book or any secondary source.
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